
More often than not the birth partner is overlooked at birth, but they have an important role. They need to support their birthing partner, be their advocate, help them get into that calm birthing zone, help them get back into the calm zone if they come out of it and relay any communications to the medical team, if required. During my course we talk at length about the birth partners role and what they can do to help them and their partner have a positive birth experience.
Recently I have had a couple of birth partners talk to me about how grateful they were for attending my course, and after they had finished relaying why they were thanking me I said "please can you write that down for me?"
So here is what they wrote - thank you Ben and Lloyd!
"Firstly, I will hold my hands up and say I was a little skeptical at first, I mean women have been giving birth for thousands and thousands of years and therefore considered that whilst it’s definitely “hard work” for mums it’s one of the most natural things to go through.
Well I am really happy to say that my skepticism was put to bed very quickly.
This is my third child and my partner, Lucy’s first so I felt that I had been there, seen it, done it etc. However it’s amazing what you forget in a decade!
Debbie was fantastic, she took each of our respective concerns and bearing in mind this was a pandemic pregnancy with the real worry that I wouldn’t be able to attend the birth, there were a few, and broke them down and helped to massively alleviate them.
She provided really effective techniques to make the birth more manageable mentally and helped to provide a calm that perhaps had been lacking previously. She also provided me with several different tools, to help Lucy get through the labour even though for the majority of it, as suspected, we were kept apart.
We did the course over video call, as again the pandemic thwarted our plans of face to face sessions and after each of them we felt better equipped to deal with whatever was thrown at us.
I think the biggest gain from the sessions, was the confidence it provided Lucy to deliver our daughter Mia under any set of circumstances, but also for me as a partner who couldn’t be there for arguably the most important landmark of our relationship.
Lucy was amazing and adopted many of the techniques she had learned and practiced from our hypnotherapy sessions for the several hours until I was called in to the hospital and 1 hour and 45mins after I arrived she delivered our perfect little bundle of joy Mia.
I would highly recommend Debbie’s hypnobirthing course for both parents...we found it invaluable especially in these testing times."
- Ben, January 2021
“As a first time father-to-be, I came into this experience about as ill prepared as I’m sure many first time fathers are. Combined with a global pandemic which has stopped many pregnancy and NCT type classes, I was not confident in my knowledge or my ability to help my partner.
Debbie was fantastic at communicating with us throughout the pregnancy, she established exactly what our concerns and issues were, structured her course to our wants, needs and fears, and really helped both of us believe in ourselves and our ability to have this baby, and find a sense of confidence neither of us had before.
Working with Debbie over Zoom during the pandemic has been smooth and easy, and whilst face to face contact is always nice, I don’t think either myself or my partner felt anything was missing from the experience.
Debbie is clearly incredibly knowledgeable about all aspects of childbirth. She was the most comprehensive and best source of information I found during the whole pregnancy. She had the time and patience to talk us through things even our midwife didn’t have time for.
I would unequivocally endorse and recommend Debbie to anyone I knew who might be expecting a baby, I really cannot emphasize enough what a help she’s been!”
- Lloyd, February 2021
Recently I have had a couple of birth partners talk to me about how grateful they were for attending my course, and after they had finished relaying why they were thanking me I said "please can you write that down for me?"
So here is what they wrote - thank you Ben and Lloyd!
"Firstly, I will hold my hands up and say I was a little skeptical at first, I mean women have been giving birth for thousands and thousands of years and therefore considered that whilst it’s definitely “hard work” for mums it’s one of the most natural things to go through.
Well I am really happy to say that my skepticism was put to bed very quickly.
This is my third child and my partner, Lucy’s first so I felt that I had been there, seen it, done it etc. However it’s amazing what you forget in a decade!
Debbie was fantastic, she took each of our respective concerns and bearing in mind this was a pandemic pregnancy with the real worry that I wouldn’t be able to attend the birth, there were a few, and broke them down and helped to massively alleviate them.
She provided really effective techniques to make the birth more manageable mentally and helped to provide a calm that perhaps had been lacking previously. She also provided me with several different tools, to help Lucy get through the labour even though for the majority of it, as suspected, we were kept apart.
We did the course over video call, as again the pandemic thwarted our plans of face to face sessions and after each of them we felt better equipped to deal with whatever was thrown at us.
I think the biggest gain from the sessions, was the confidence it provided Lucy to deliver our daughter Mia under any set of circumstances, but also for me as a partner who couldn’t be there for arguably the most important landmark of our relationship.
Lucy was amazing and adopted many of the techniques she had learned and practiced from our hypnotherapy sessions for the several hours until I was called in to the hospital and 1 hour and 45mins after I arrived she delivered our perfect little bundle of joy Mia.
I would highly recommend Debbie’s hypnobirthing course for both parents...we found it invaluable especially in these testing times."
- Ben, January 2021
“As a first time father-to-be, I came into this experience about as ill prepared as I’m sure many first time fathers are. Combined with a global pandemic which has stopped many pregnancy and NCT type classes, I was not confident in my knowledge or my ability to help my partner.
Debbie was fantastic at communicating with us throughout the pregnancy, she established exactly what our concerns and issues were, structured her course to our wants, needs and fears, and really helped both of us believe in ourselves and our ability to have this baby, and find a sense of confidence neither of us had before.
Working with Debbie over Zoom during the pandemic has been smooth and easy, and whilst face to face contact is always nice, I don’t think either myself or my partner felt anything was missing from the experience.
Debbie is clearly incredibly knowledgeable about all aspects of childbirth. She was the most comprehensive and best source of information I found during the whole pregnancy. She had the time and patience to talk us through things even our midwife didn’t have time for.
I would unequivocally endorse and recommend Debbie to anyone I knew who might be expecting a baby, I really cannot emphasize enough what a help she’s been!”
- Lloyd, February 2021