I'm not lying, I really did feel great! ..and my baby was happy and healthy too, feeding well and ready for home.
Your body is made perfectly to birth your baby, and YOU can feel like this too. YOU can feel awesome after birth too, because you are supposed to, because our bodies are made to birth babies! But so many things get in the way and can prevent many mums from achieving a straightforward, normal birth. It is mainly the fear of ‘what if’ that gets in the way. There was an article recently published in The Times about how internet forums are driving the fear of childbirth because of everybody sharing their horror stories. I’m not going to lie to you, labour can be tough. It can be overwhelming, intense, and yes - lots would describe it as painful.....but it can be awesome, incredible, and mind-blowing.
14% of women suffer from tocophobia (fear of childbirth), mainly due to all the horror stories out there, and that’s not right. Giving birth should be something that is looked forward to and embraced - not dreaded.
Getting rid of the fear and focussing or switching off your mind during birth isn’t as hard as you think. By learning some skills and techniques to help your body get on with it, to help your mind focus, you will feel more in control and more able to let your subconscious - your birthing brain - just get on with it. You can learn these skills through hypnobirthing, through learning from those who have used these skills, who have used them and felt awesome for doing that! You can also surround yourself in positive stories about giving birth, feed both your conscious and subconscious mind with the mind-blowing awesomeness of the human body to create and birth another. Speak to women who have had normal, positive birth experiences. Watch lovely calm birth clips on your screen, read about how birth can be hard work, primal ..but wonderful.
YOU could be that mum who has invested in her baby’s birth, the only birth your baby will ever have, rather than investing in a top of the range travel system. YOU could be that mum who has spent time being consciously positive about her baby’s birth and unravelling and releasing any old thoughts, habits and feelings towards the birth. You could be that mum who has given herself a far better chance to have the best birth possible. Think sports psychology for birth!
If you aren’t expecting a baby at the moment, next time you see a pregnant woman, tell her she’s got this. Give her tips that will help her to ask questions, to feel empowered in the birth room. Point her towards the Positive Birth Movement, hypnobirthing classes, antenatal classes, a doula - all these things can make a difference.
And if you are expecting... Hey Gorgeous, Congratulations. You too can feel awesome after the birth. Invest in your baby’s only birth. Take control. You’ve got this.