Research shows that when it comes to birth the more involved you are in the decision-making process, the more likely you are to be happy with the outcome of that decision EVEN if wasn’t what you initially planned for.
- When it comes to feeling more in control, learning how to ask questions is a really important part of the process.
- Asking questions comes with confidence and confidence is something we build, it takes time and practice so asking questions is something that I encourage you to chip away at.
- Start with the small questions at your midwife check-ups. Especially if you feel bamboozled by medical terms or want more information on something.
- What does this mean?
- What are the implications of this for me and my baby?
- Where can I get more information about this?
- Can you explain that for me, please?
- Is there another option?
- Can you leave us for 10 minutes so that we can discuss this?
When it comes to the more challenging decisions that may crop up, I always refer to the BRAIN model, it is a fabulous tool, not just for birth but for lots of different decision making scenarios.